‘Forgiveness is the key to the bars that imprison me.’
lyrics from Sara Westbrook song ‘Hearts Collide’
Forgiveness is something that seems very difficult to do. It is important to remember that forgiving someone isn’t saying what they did or said was right. It is saying that you are no longer willing to carry around the hurt, the pain, the anger.
We often have things that are said to us, done to us. Our common sense tells us this should not have happened. ‘You sould have known better than to have said/done this.’ But for some people it is not common sense and they step over the line and say/do something that hurts you and you find yourself having to make a choice An example ..when my parents first separated, my Dad left without telling me. I didn’t hear from him for months. Finally I decided to call him. In my mind I had three choices. I could either hold onto the anger, hurt & sadness (negative) or I could forgive him and learn about the importance of communication (positive) or be indifferent to the situation. (neutral) In making choice #2 I was able to call him and start us on the road to a new relationship. One day I asked my Dad why he decided to leave without telling me. He said he thought it would be easier that way. Now to me, it is common sense that telling me would have been much easier. But for whatever reason it wasn’t common sense to him. So here I am forgiving him for leaving without saying anything, when he isn’t asking for my forgiveness. That really put me to the test. Not only did that forgiveness heal me, it healed our relationship, allowing us to build a wonderful bond. It wasn’t because he changed, it was because I made the choice to forgive.
Do you know how much energy it takes through thought or actions to keep on avoiding the person or situation? Your stomach is in knots, your heart is pounding, your head hurts. You are worked up on every level of your being. You want to make sure they know you are not going to forgive them.You are going to show them. Perhaps by giving them the cold shoulder, by not talking to them or by talking about them to other people…letting the world know the kind of person they are.
You could be using that energy to focus on your life, to work on your dreams, to be completely in love with life. Instead you are using that negative energy on someone that may not even be aware that you are angry and, if they do know, they may not care. These situations/people are the bars that are keeping you prisoner. Forgiveness is the key that will release you from that prison. So set yourself free. Bring yourself healing. You will be saying I am in control of me. I am choosing to move forward from this.
Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. Try it!!!
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Sara Westbrook is an international singer/songwriter/speaker. Sara created UPower® concerts, motivational concerts designed to let people, especially youth, know they have the ability to make powerful choices that will create a positive impact no matter what the circumstance.
Each song Sara writes contains a life skill. Through the power of speech and music Sara takes people on a journey. Let the Journey Begin