Path of least resistance

Catherine Graham, Personal Coach Motivational Singer/Speaker

Catherine Graham, Personal Coach Motivational Singer/Speaker

The Path of least resistance may be a wise decision if you are proactive and made as a conscious decision for your course of action. All too often however it is the “Neutral Path”. Personal Coach and motivational singer/speaker Catherine Graham looks at how that easy path of excuses may find its way into our lives for both children and parents and how it then may create even more obstacles in your life.


Excuses, Excuses

“I can’t do it, Mommy” my three year old daughter cried to me, after many unsuccessful attempts at putting her new boots on. Tears were running down her face as she threw her boot to the wall…


Now to some, this may seem like a childish tantrum. In fact, it’s noted in most parenting magazines as something that all children do. As parents, we are given tips on how to handle tantrums, the biggest pointer being to ignore it, until it de-escalates. But we’ve all been there before. We get frustrated when the ‘boot’ doesn’t go on the right way, or the way we planned for it. We come up with excuses (I can’t do it, it’s too hard, I’m afraid) and back down, sometimes throwing our own ‘boots’ to the wall, or further…out of our thoughts and out of our minds forever.

For my daughter, the boot situation was resolved easily. I showed her how to pull the Velcro to widen the boot, so she could easily slip it on. Not everything is quite as simple though. Sometimes there are many obstacles standing in our way (lack of time, money, confidence, support) and thus we excuse ourselves from discovering our own potential and living up to it.

Looking back on my life, I was an excuse queen myself. I could come up with excuses for everything, from not doing the dishes (I didn’t have time) to not investing in myself and my own career (the kids need me 24 hours a day).
Unfortunately, this leaves a person feeling inadequate and never enough. We all have a tendency to limit ourselves, and our own potentials. We tell ourselves lies, each and every day about what we can or can’t do.

Some of our excuses stem from our own thoughts and feelings, while others stem from a comment others made to us in the past. These comments or criticisms are simply circumstances. They do not predict who or what you are, or what you may become. They are an opportunity for you to decide whether or not you’re going to listen, and how important your dreams are for yourself.

Your ‘boot’ may not always go on easily, however, there are always solutions, when you ask questions, seek help and guidance, and BELIEVE that you can do it.

Until next time,

Live love, and love life

XO Catherine

Catherine Graham is an author, singer-songwriter, life coach, speaker, and a mother of six. Her work has been featured in Chicken Soup for the Soul; Divorce and Recovery, and the Kitchener Waterloo Record. Catherine wrote her first novel, Woman To Woman, The Journey To Me, in 2008.
Catherine has been playing guitar since she was nine years old, and started writing her own music in 2008. She has competed in many competitions, and was featured at the Clothesline Project for Women, in Collingwood, Ontario in 2008. Catherine’s music can be found on Facebook.
After overcoming many obstacles in her own life, Catherine realized that she had an important message to share with girls and women alike. She uses her own lessons, from abuse to divorce, to help others shed light on their own lives, and live to their highest potentials.
To learn more about Catherine, please visit www.freewebs.com/journeyhealers

Mariah Carey —Make It Happen

Not more than three short years ago
I was abandoned and alone
Without a penny to my name
So very young and so afraid
No proper shoes upon my feet
Sometimes I couldn’t even eat
I often cried myself to sleep
But still I had to keep on going
Never knowing if I could take it
If I would make it through the night
I held on to my faith
I struggled and I prayed
And now I’ve found my way

If you believe in yourself enough
And know what you want
You’re gonna make it happen
Make it happen
And if you get down on your
knees at night
And pray to the Lord
He’s gonna make it happen
Make it happen

I know life can be so tough
And you feel like giving up
But you must be strong
Baby just hold on
You’ll never find the answers
if you throw your life away
I used to feel the way you do
Still I have to keep on going
Never knowing if I could take it
If I would make it through the night
I held on to my faith
I struggled and I prayed
And now I’ve finally found my way


I once was lost
But now I’m found
I got my feet on solid ground
Thank you Lord
If you believe within your soul
Just hold on tight
And don’t let go
You can make it
Make it happen





Victor Sinclair. VP of VSC International, Founder of the Positive Imperative and the Positive Music Imperative movements/concept and community, has a wide background in teaching, broadcasting, the music industry and business and most recently served as a founder and Executive Director of the American Chamber of Commerce in Canada (AmCham Canada). He has also dedicated more than 30 years of his life to volunteerism and not for profits including Big Brothers, Memorial Boys and Girls Clubs, Minor Leagues Sports and as a President and board member of several not-for-profit boards. Interests include family, biking, tennis, reading, music and PI/PMI of course. http://www.vscinternationalcorp.com http://www.positiveimperative.com http://www.positivemusicimperative.com http://www.twitter.com/posimperative http://www.facebook.com/Vic.Sinclair http://www.linkedin.com/in/victorsinclair

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