The most important ingredient we put into any relationship
is not what we say or what we do, but what we are.
~ Stephen R. Covey
I have often heard people say, “I want to find a great relationship.’ And my reply to that is, ‘A great relationship isn’t found – it’s created.” What exactly do I mean?
I want to share with you one of the most powerful exercises I did as a teenager to attract the relationship I wanted in my life. I took my journal and started to write down what I wanted in a relationship. I wrote down the Positive Values that I wanted the person to have (ex. honest, responsible, committed, faithful, family oriented, open communication, good listener) and the characteristics (ex. humour, kind, generous, understanding).
There is power in putting it to paper.
Also, knowing & believing you deserve a great relationship is key.
I believe it is important to find someone who will be your best friend, whom you can trust, whom you can grow with and learn from. Someone who will be your soft place to land when life gets tough.
My new husband, George, and I started dating when I was in grade 10. The reason we have a great relationship today is because we have similar values & he has the characteristics I was looking for. It is not that we don’t have bumps along the way- it is that we have the same commitment to each other. We are committed to creating an amazing relationship. We are committed to having open communication, listening to one another and understanding each other’s needs. We are a team.
In order to create extraordinary relationships you have to figure out what an extraordinary relationship looks like for you. It is different for everyone.
Write it down. Focus on it. Believe you deserve it and that it is possible.
Amazing things happen when you focus on what you want and believe you can have it!
A great relationship doesn’t happen by chance- it is created!
George & I have been together for 12 years and just got married!
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
~ Anthony Robbins
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